A woman says she refused to be her sister’s maid of honour after a “nightmare” experience at her own wedding.
The unnamed person on Reddit shared the story on popular group AmITheA*****e, and said she made the decision after being “humiliated” on her big day.
The woman wrote: “My sister (30F) and I (28F) have always had a rocky relationship. When I got married two years ago, I asked her to be my maid of honor. I thought it could bring us closer.
“However, she made the whole process a nightmare – complaining about the dress, skipping out on planning, and even showing up late on the wedding day.”
She said the worst part was that during her sister’s speech, “she made a ‘joke’ about how she was surprised I found someone who could “put up with me”. “It was humiliating, and I was on the verge of tears in front of everyone”, she added.
“Now, she’s getting married and just asked me to be her maid of honor. I said no. I told her I couldn’t do it after what happened at my wedding. She blew up at me, saying I’m being petty and holding a grudge.
She said her parents think I should just let it go “for the sake of family peace”, and asked the forum’s 20 million users whether she was in the wrong.
One commenter suggested she “tell mom and dad you’ll agree only if you get to behave exactly like she did. I love telling people I’m going to act like they did and watch them backtrack so fast lol,” they added.
Another said she was doing the right thing and taking the “high road”. They continued: “If you were truly petty, you could agree and then do the same to her that she did to you.
“Tell that to your parents. Then tell them that for the sake of family peace your sister needs to let it go and find another maid of honor.”
Another said she was fine to decline but may have overacted to what her sister said. They said: “She’s fine to be upset. Parents are fine to wish you’d reconsider. It’s not a mandatory position.
“But I think siblings joking that the party found someone who would put up with them is pretty standard and mild sibling ribbing,” they said.
“I’ve heard it at so many weddings. My own sister probably said it at mine. The difference is, l like my sister, it sounds like you don’t like yours.”
